"You Intimidate Men"
If I could have a dollar for every time I have heard this statement or a version of it I would make a substantial amount of money. Today, I was sitting in a large group of men and we were dialoging about some critical subjects in the world of education. We got to one particular portion where I got visually adamant, passionate, and demonstrative. During the break a tinge of guilt and shame hit me. The guilt reminded me of a past experience when a man I admired made a comment about how my passion would be a source of intimidation for men. He said, "Wait, hold on now. You cannot come with all that. You're gonna scare a brother off. You have to tone that down because he's not going to be ready for all of that." My heart sank. Today, that thought came back up, "Brandy maybe you should tone it down? Maybe you should just be quiet more and not so passionate? What if you scare them? Why did you have to say ...