How Do I Know If He Likes Me 2
In my last post I wrote about how we can easily place so much emotional energy into asking the question of "how do I know if he likes me." The post centered on how we should respond when we find that this particular man for which we prayed does not have those feelings for us. It is incredibly simple for us as women to deposit so much emotional energy into the potential of a relationship. You know what I mean...when in our daydreams we imagine perfect dates, sharing dreams with him, what type of tux he may look best in, and we find nervous anticipating delight thinking this man might truly be the one we have sought God's heart for.
The previous post focused on responding to the deferred hope of when we find that he does not have romantic feelings for us. The thesis essentially was that we must press ourselves into uncovering what it means to be God's workmanship and in so doing find our true and complete worth as a woman in our walk and worship. Our focus when dealing with this type of unrealized hope must turn away from the lacerating questions of "Why was he not into me? What did I miss?" but instead turn to the Truth-Giver Himself to find freedom from the chains of doubt, unhealthy arrogance, self-pity and other confidence destroying emotions. It is the process of pressing into our Workman who lovingly designed us into His workmanship where we discover the confidence for which we are striving.
In more prayer and reflection, the Lord laid something else on me in this process--"Above all else, guard your heart..." (Prov. 4:23a). When I fell into the trap of allowing emotional connections before I had clarity from God about the relationship, my heart was completely exposed. If a man has feelings for me; I am transforming into the woman where he has to tell me upfront on the spot. No games played. A true friend tried to tell me, "Brandy he needs to tell you." And I said, "Yes, but maybe he's shy because he is showing all the signs." No, signs or not I believe we have to expect more from our men to step up and be intentional and honest. If he is a man that is seeking God in this area of his life, then the Holy Spirit will give him the courage to be bold and tell us his feelings and intentions. Our "game playing" culture of find, flirt, and get a fix will continually rob of us the relationships we really seek. May we be the women courageous enough to ask the question "does he like me?" and wait for God's clear direction and the man's clear intentions.
The previous post focused on responding to the deferred hope of when we find that he does not have romantic feelings for us. The thesis essentially was that we must press ourselves into uncovering what it means to be God's workmanship and in so doing find our true and complete worth as a woman in our walk and worship. Our focus when dealing with this type of unrealized hope must turn away from the lacerating questions of "Why was he not into me? What did I miss?" but instead turn to the Truth-Giver Himself to find freedom from the chains of doubt, unhealthy arrogance, self-pity and other confidence destroying emotions. It is the process of pressing into our Workman who lovingly designed us into His workmanship where we discover the confidence for which we are striving.
In more prayer and reflection, the Lord laid something else on me in this process--"Above all else, guard your heart..." (Prov. 4:23a). When I fell into the trap of allowing emotional connections before I had clarity from God about the relationship, my heart was completely exposed. If a man has feelings for me; I am transforming into the woman where he has to tell me upfront on the spot. No games played. A true friend tried to tell me, "Brandy he needs to tell you." And I said, "Yes, but maybe he's shy because he is showing all the signs." No, signs or not I believe we have to expect more from our men to step up and be intentional and honest. If he is a man that is seeking God in this area of his life, then the Holy Spirit will give him the courage to be bold and tell us his feelings and intentions. Our "game playing" culture of find, flirt, and get a fix will continually rob of us the relationships we really seek. May we be the women courageous enough to ask the question "does he like me?" and wait for God's clear direction and the man's clear intentions.
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